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Ah, the tantrums we will throw!

I am the very proud mother of a three year old girl we call affectionately call Boo. Boo is a fairly well mannered, bright girl…especially for three. She says please, thank you, ma’am, sir,  you’re welcome, God Bless you, and she even prays for people when they get hurt! She has mastered all of the skills up to around a 4 1/2 year olds level, and her vocabulary is roughly that of a five year old. Am I bragging? Maybe a little bit, but bear with me here…

Despite all of this, or perhaps because of this, my daughter can throw some of the longest lasting, most spectacular tantrums you would ever want to see…or not see, as the case may be. She doesn’t do it all of the time by any means. Rather, she does it in spurts. She may go a month, or even two months, as a perfect little angel (save for, of course, the typical small-scale “I don’t want to” “You have to” “no” “Yes” Okay” sort of thing). Then for an entire week, maybe two, she sprouts horns and a tale and let’s all hell loose in our house. During this periods in time, she will argue with anything I say…she will throw things… she will kick and stomp and slam doors (YES! She does that already!)… she will cry and scream at the top of her lungs…she will hide in her room or decide to be right up my butt, so to speak… mothers and fathers around the world know exactly what I mean here.

While a lot of people say “just ignore it” and a lot of others say “beat her butt and she will never do it again” I can honestly say it’s just not that easy. As her mother, I have to figure out what is going to work for her particular mood for that particular time in her life. Do I give her a small pat on the bottom or put her in the corner? Do I take away TV or try to reason things out with her? Do I ignore her or do I “count to three”? I use all of these methods. They all work…sometimes.

But what about me, as the mother? Do you know what I wish I could do? and no, I don’t mean lock Boo up in the closet for an hour for some peace and quiet! haha. No, I wish I could show her what she looks like. I want to throw myself down on the floor, kick, scream, throw things, and demand to get what I want. I want to throw such a big fit that my house looks like a bomb went off inside of it. I want to scream until I get laryngitis and then lock myself in my room. Sometimes I”m extremely tempted to do this. Parents, can you imagine if we through toddler or pre-school aged tantrums? Perhaps we should. Show them how ridiculous they look when we know full well at three years old (and four, and five) that they know how to tell us something in a rational sort of way. So why don’t we? I don’t know about you, but I just might one day. I shall travel my house and explore new ways to throw tantrums. I may even get my husband in on it to let loose some steam. Heck, maybe I’ll even call my brothers, sisters,  cousins, neighbors, and that lady that runs the self checkout line. So here we go…

AH, THE TANTRUMS WE WILL THROW!

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2 Comments (+add yours?)

  1. Deborah the Closet Monster
    Dec 26, 2012 @ 12:32:23

    They all work…sometimes.
    Isn’t this the truth?! In the rare instances where someone says “you just need to,” I can’t help but fix them with my “o rly?” look. If it were “just” that easy, don’t you think I would’ve just done it already?

    I’ve used your proposed approach on a smaller scale issue once or twice, to good effect. When my son’s been whining for several minutes and none of my other strategies are working, I’ll whine back. He asks me to stop, and I do . . . if he does.

    It works so far.

    Sometimes.

    Reply

    • Dixie's Ranter
      Dec 26, 2012 @ 12:47:34

      Exactly. Every kid is different, and every situation with every kid is different… people do the “you just need to” thing to me all of the time, and I just smile at them and shake my head. Many things sound easy in theory, but in child-raising *nothing* is as easy as it sounds.

      I’m happy to hear that whining back works sometimes! I actually tried it out last night, and it worked alright for me. It was just the “I don’t want to go to bed” issue,but my daughter decided to make a big deal out of it. She went right to bed… probably just to get away from me. LOL!

      Thanks for sharing! Lord knows everything is always a “Sometimes” ordeal, but if something works sometimes, then it works well for children! 🙂

      Reply

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